Development Work

Personality Development Skills & Importance



Great Personality:

          Who is a Great Personality according to you?

          What do we learn from the Great Personalities?

          Great Personalities of  India and the World

Role Model:

          Who is your Role Model and  Why?

          What are the Qualities of Role Model in general?

Personality Development : Meaning

Personality Development Skills 

Importance of  Personality Development Skills

Personal Development, Job Opportunities & Job Interview

How to improve your personal development skills

Personality Development Courses

Books on Skills of Personality Development

Personality Development Tests

Personality Types

Dedicate your Time to Practise Personal Skills with these activities

Most Desired Qualities to live as a true human being

Every human being wants Happiness, Success and Peaceful Life.



We generally ask our children, “what do you want to be after your studies?”  The answer normally comes from the children, I want to be a Doctor or Scientist or Astronaut or  Actor/Actress or  Miss Universe, etc. Some children who know little about some personalities, they would say, “I want to be like Mahatma Gandhi or Abraham Lincoln or Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam or Albert Einstein”, etc.

Dr David Schwartz, PhD asked his six-year-old son, David when he finished his kindergarten.  He asked him what he plans to be when he grows up.  He answered his father, “Dad, I want to be a professor”.  “A professor?  A professor of what?”, he asked.  David replied, “I want to be professor of happiness.”  Dr  David Schwartz, PhD wrote a book “The Magic of Thinking BIG” which became very famous.

This communication leads to reflection of Personality and brings out the readiness of the persons to reach a great personality with required Personality Development.

I am reading this book.  This is very attractive and interesting book with  practical experience and with thesis topics.

You Can Win“: A Step By Step Tool For Top Achievers is a best-selling self-help book by an author, educator, business consultant and a successful entrepreneur, he is a much sought-after speaker Mr. Shiv Khera. He inspires and encourages people, making them realise their true potential.Success is a hard commodity to obtain. … Transforming negative thoughts into positive ones is the key, he reveals, and this book follows his motto of translating thoughts into winning actions.

I read this book on a daily basis, highlighted/underlined all the important words of this book and I tried hard to implement all the positive thoughts in my daily professional life.  This definitely gave me an exponential growth and success in my career.  I got promoted to Assistant Director from the position of Regional Head of an organization.  I also used to counsel and guide all my subordinates with these ideas which they also found very useful.

Empower yourself and grow exponentially. A practical, common sense guide that will help you:· Build confidence by mastering the seven steps to positive thinking· Be successful by turning weaknesses into Positive Attitude

Change of ATTITUDE

Who is a Great Personality according to you?

When we ask the young kids,  “what do you want to become when you grow up”, you would have come across answers like

“I want to become a Doctor or a Nurse or a Teacher or an Engineer” or

 “I want to become a scientist like Albert Einstein” or

 “I want to become a cricketer like Sachin Tendulkar.”

Their answers depends upon their interest at that point of time.  It is very exciting how great personalities influence not only the children but also the students and adults.

What do we learn from the Great Personalities?

Reading stories of successful people can leave an indelible impression on the people and their lives. From their struggles to their passion and achieving great reputation, there is an endless number of things that you can actually learn from such personalities. Keeping these things in mind, we have formulated a list of great personalities who not only excelled in their careers but also gave the power to dream to millions of others.

Great Personalities of  India and the World

Mahatma Gandhi              Sardar Vallabhbhai Patel   

(1869-1948)                      (1875-1950)

Jawaharlal Nehru              Dr B R Ambedkar

(1889-1964)                      (1891-1956)

J. R. D. Tata                     Mother Teresa

(1904-1993)                      (1910–1997)

Indira Gandhi                    Dr. A. P. J. Abdul Kalam

(1917–1984)                     (1931–2015)

Rabindranath Tagore         Swami Vivekananda

(1861-1941)                      (1863-1902)

Subhas Chandra Bose       Sri Aurobindo Ghose

(1897-1945)                      (1872-1950)

Sir C V Raman                  Chhatrapati Shivaji

(1888-1970)                      (1630-1680)

Dr Sarvepalli Radhakrishnan


 Sachin Tendulkar

Abraham Lincoln               Charles Darwin

(1809-1865)                      (1809-1882)

Thomas Alva Edison          Walt Disney

(1847-1931)                      (1901-1966)

John F. Kennedy               Martin Luther King

(1917-1963)                      (1929-1968)

Albert Einstein                   Leo Tolstoy

(1879-1955)                      (1828-1910)

Michael Jackson                Muhammad Ali

(1958-2009)                      (1942-2016)

Nelson Mandela                Steve Jobs

(1918-2013)                      (1955-2011)

Bill Gates                          Barack Obama                           

Pope Francis                     Dalai Lama

Who is my Role Model and  Why?

This is based on the actual experience.  I visited almost all the Engineering Colleges of Gujarat State, India, at least 50% of the colleges in Maharashtra State and many colleges in Madhya Pradesh, India for Career Development Programs.  One of the most famous questions prevailing in the colleges is, “Who is your Role Model and Why?”.  This question is being asked during the interview for fresh graduates.  The common answer that would come from most of the students would be, “My father or my mother”.  In some of the cases the answer would be other relatives.  Also some of the students would mention about a great personality.

A role model is a person whose behavior, example, practical experience or success is or can be emulated by others, especially by younger people, who are willing or dreaming to grow to extent or more to such persons.

Personality & Career Development Program at SAL College of Engg., Gujarat, India

What are the Qualities of Role Model in general?

Set a Good Example                   Higher Values

Aspirational                                 Listening

Hard Working                             Smart Working

Passionate                                  Committed

Strong                                         Intelligent

Sincere                                       Generous

Wealthy                                      Diligent

Humble                                      Inspirational

Understanding                            Honest

Successful                                  Confident Creative                                      Powerful

Inspirational :  the process of being mentally stimulated to do or feel something, especially to do something creative.  Something or someone that is inspiring is exciting and makes you feel strongly interested, very practical and enthusiastic. Synonyms: uplifting, encouraging, exciting, moving.

Aspirational :  the process of having or characterized to achieve social prestige and material success to attain a higher social position or standard of living.  This also relates to or characterized by aspiration or a strong desire for something or to do something.

Personality Development  Meaning

It is important that we understand what are hard skills and what are soft skills with examples.

Hard Skill : Hard skills are learned abilities acquired and enhanced through education with much practice and repetition.  Hard skills refer to subject matter expertise, an academic qualification, industry specific certification, marketing, book-keeping, coding and computer skills.  Hard skills are very much essential because they increase employability, productivity, efficiency and subsequently improve employee satisfaction. 

Soft Skill : Soft skills, also known as common skills or core skills, are skills which are desirable in all professions. These skills include inborn, observed and developed qualities.  These include critical thinking, problem solving, communication, professional writing, teamwork, digital literacy, collaboration, curiosity, creativity, professional attitude, work ethic, career management.

Personal development : Personal development refers to activities which help you or mould you to improve talents, learning potential, employability, and even wealth with success and growth. Any time you are consciously making an effort to improve yourself, you are participating in personal development process.

Personal development or self-development refers to possessing personal strengths and characteristics that aid teachers define and make sense of their teaching practice and of themselves as individuals. This is through developing the necessary life skills that can help them grow in and outside their profession.

  • Personality Development means enhancing our personality in such a way so that it becomes attractive, inspiring and setting an example to others in every manner. 
  • It includes basic things like communication, etiquette, body language, and many other things. We learn these skills right from our childhood, from our parents, relatives, friends, through our studies and through special courses, from our teachers, from our work places from our colleagues, bosses and from other professionals.
  • These situations and special courses enhance our management skills, improve our decision making and help us in becoming good leaders with effective plans and goals. 
  • We learn soft skills as well as interpersonal skills in personality development courses which are essential in every stage of our life.
  • The definition of a personality trait is a quality or characteristic that distinguishes the character, action and attitude of a person … An example of a personality trait is being outgoing or extroverted. Openness and conscientiousness are examples of personality traits.

Personality Development Skills 

Emphasis is laid on the below topics/ areas in personality development courses.  These are the skills that everyone should have to have a great personality that is attractive to all.  

Effective Communication             Time Management

Lifelong Learning                         Responsibility

Team Work                                 Research & Analytical Skills

Organizing Skills                          Relationship Management

Adaptability                                 Flexibility

Patience                                     Leadership

Trustworthy                                 Problem Solving Skills

Creativity                                    Interpersonal Skills

Attitude – Positive                        Self-Confidence

Self-Motivation                            Ability to Work under pressure

Plan & Target                              Negotiation                                

Result Orientated                        Confidence

Leadership                                  Interview / Career Oriented

Listening Skills                            Understanding Skills

Importance of  Personality Development Skills

Have you ever wondered why some people have continued with success, while others have experienced endless failures?

Why do some people never reach their goals?

Why are they  always frustrated with reversals and crisis?

Successful people have achieved Success with Discipline as their normal life style; whether in the field of sports, athletics, academics or business or profession.

Some people ‘without discipline’ try to do ‘everything’, but commit themselves to ‘nothing’.

Some people interpret “lack of discipline” as “freedom”.

When you are sitting in aircraft you would want a pilot who is well disciplined and who does exactly what he is supposed to do and not what he feels like doing.  The pilot cannot say, “I am free to do whatever I want.  I don’t want anyone from the control  tower telling me what to do.”

Lack of consistency is poor discipline.  Discipline takes self-control, sacrifice, and avoiding distractions and temptations.  It means staying focused on goals, results and finally achieving success.

Personality development enables us to discover our qualities.  It empowers us to make the right decisions and to choose wisely.  It builds our Confidence which is the winning quality in us.  Confident people become successful in the long run

It assists us in communicating effectively, convincingly, and precisely.  Once we know how to develop personality, we will be seen as a leader by our peers and colleagues.  It attracts more people and you become the Role Model for others who would follow your views, ideas and principles. It finally makes us a Great Personality.

Personal Development, Job Opportunities & Job Interview

The definition of grit  describes the qualities every successful person possesses, because mental toughness actually builds the foundations for long-term success. There are many jobs in both the private and government sector where having a good personality with positive attitude.  Convey your personal development skills on your resume and when interviewing for a job to show employers you can succeed in that position.

1. Highlight personal development skills in your resume

Create a section in your resume titled “Skills” that includes both hard skills and soft skills. List only the personal development skills that apply to that job. If you have many skill types, you might group them by category within your resume’s skills section.

2. Highlight personal development skills in your cover letter

Choose a couple of personal development skills that you feel are strong and most relevant to the job. Within the body of your cover letter, describe briefly how you would apply each one to that job’s responsibilities, or give an example of how that skill has benefited you in the past.

3. Highlight personal development skills during your job interview

List your strongest personal development skills when answering interview questions, such as “What are your strengths and weaknesses?” or “What are your goals?” Describe your top skills, your plan for further development and where you have room for improvement. You can also use examples to show off your personal development skills.

These are just a few of the personal development skills that can benefit your life and your work. Self-development is a lifelong process upon which you can continue to improve. Focus on developing the skills that will best help you reach your goals.

How to improve your personal development skills

It is important to know that

Successful people are great at delaying gratification.

Successful people are great at withstanding temptation.

Successful people are great at overcoming fear in order to do what they need to do.

Successful people don’t just prioritize.

Successful people consistently keep doing what they have decided is most important.

All these qualities require mental strength and toughness–so it’s no coincidence these are some of the qualities of remarkably successful people.

Here are ways you can become mentally stronger–and as a result more successful.

You can enhance your personal development skills by attending classes, learning from the people around you, gaining new talents and improving upon existing ones. Follow these guidelines to develop yourself personally:

  1. Overcome your fears: Fear can prevent you from growing ahead and progressing. If you are afraid of public speaking, for instance, take a class or join a group that helps people become better public speakers. If you are afraid of taking risks, find a mentor who can help you make good decisions and build your confidence. Grow and learn by taking a small risk of doing things which you are not much comfortable doing.  If you are shy, try starting a conversation or introducing yourself  to new people at a reception or workshop.
  1. Develop the habit of Reading: Reading can expand your knowledge and vocabulary and keep you informed. It can also stimulate your mind and can improve your critical thinking skills. Try setting a goal to read at least one educational or motivational article a day, or one book a month.
  2. Learn something new:  Learn a new skill or topic, whether you do it yourself  or learn through a training. You might  take time to attend courses to learn a new language, a new software program or how to write creatively. Consider attending or watching a webinar on professional development topics such as entrepreneurship or social media or digital marketing.
  3. Ask for feedback:  Approach a family member, friend, colleague or manager, and ask them to give you feedback on your recent project or activities or achievements. Use their positive comments, suggestions as well as their constructive criticism to find ways to improve. Sometimes you need an outside, unbiased opinion to get a different perspective.
  4. Observe others:  Watch and learn from the people who inspire you. This could be someone you know, such as a supervisor, a family member or public figure. Identify the qualities you admire in them, and try to replicate them in your life.
  5. Have a strong Network:  By interacting with many types of people, you can learn new ideas and understand how to communicate and work with different personalities. You can also meet people and develop relationships that might help you in future. Build a Network through industry organizations and shared interest groups, or attend conferences and events on topics that interest you.
  6. Maintain Daily Activities Record:  Writing down the activities every day or week can help you gain self-awareness and reflect on those events, decisions and conversations. You might keep a hand-written, private journal, or you might choose to share your thoughts and experiences by blog articles. Use this to set-up and assess goals and progress.
  7. Do Meditate:  Many people meditate to gain clarity and awareness and to reduce stress and anxiety. Meditation can help you focus on your self-development and goals in a healthy, positive and calm way. Even scheduling a break from work or spending quiet time to yourself can help you relax, review and focus meaningful and helpful activities.
  8. Have a mentor:  If you need help identifying ways to build your self-development skills, talk to a mentor who is successful, experienced, matured and who is ready to help you. This individual could be a manager, professor, someone you admire or a professional personal guide and mentor.

10. Online Jobs for Students Work from Home as  Career  or  Business

Fresh graduates, after finishing their graduation, search for Online jobs can work from home with no experience.  They apply for job in many places and go through the interview process.  Because of competition, their capability and skills work better here.  Students who continue their studies can also find this Online Job wonderful opportunity to start and get needed experience online.  Online Jobs For Students To Get Your Professional Life Started and will set you on a successful career path

Many of the online jobs are not always easy to get, but once you find your way, you’ll be able to build long-term skills, which can be turned into a career or a business.  These are the ways to make money Online by working from Home.  Most of the online jobs are very simple and anyone with basic knowledge of Internet and English language can do this. You can even make thousands of dollars monthly with some of these options.

Personality Development Courses

There are Personality Development Courses meant for Parents, children, teachers, students and also in-service training for professionals.

Personality development courses are certainly useful in building a strong personality that focuses on solutions to the problems. It directs us to take the path of positive attitude and also helps in developing the communication skills which form an integral and vital part of  our personality.

Personality Development Courses for Teachers

A teacher with a strong personality will always beat the one having a weak character. For every teacher, personality development generates a sense of happiness in their mind. This makes a teacher look good, feel confident in teaching  students and will transfer this knowledge and experience to the students with gratitude and patience.

Personality Development In-service Training for Professionals

The employers are very concerned about their employees and consider them as assets.  In-service Training Programs are planned, well designed and are conducted.  These programs mainly focus on Time Management, Team Work, Setting up Target with ways and means to achieve them and also have a better and improved communication skills.  I too have attended, which were conducted by CMC Limited, (A TATA Enterprise) and I got benefitted from such trainings.

Books on Skills of Personality Development

These books are recommended by mentors of personality development courses in different universities.

Name of the BookAuthor
As a Man ThinkethJames Allen
The Power of Positive ThinkingNorman Vincent Peale
The Power of Subconscious MindDr. Joseph Murphy
How to Win Friends and Influence PeopleDale Carnegie
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective PeopleStephen R. Covey
You Can WinShiv Khera
The Magic of Thinking BigDavid Schwartz, Ph.D.
Mindset: The New Psychology of SuccessCarol S. Dweck
Jonathan Livingston SeagullRichard Bach
Think and Grow RichNapoleon Hill
The Meditations of Marcus AureliusMarcus Aurelius
Steve JobsWalter Isaacson
Long Walk to FreedomNelson Madela
Stop Acting RichThomas Stanley

Personality Development Tests

There are Personality Development Tests categorizing four different types.  Through this test we can come to know we fall in which of these four types.  This test is based on the personality theory created by Isabel Myers and Katharine Briggs. It measures your preferences on Myers and Briggs’ four dimensions of personality type, as well as 23 more detailed facets of type to personalize your results.  There are totally 16 personalities and they are termed as INFP, INFJ, INTP, INTJ, ENFP, ENFJ, ENTP, ENTJ, ISFP, ISFJ, ISTP ISTJ, ESFP, ESFJ, ESTP, ESTJ.

The four different personality types are :

  • Type A personality. The Type A personality is the “go getter” type. …
  • Type B personality. The Type B personality is the laid back one. …
  • Type C personality. The Type C personality is the detailed one. …
  • Type D personality. The Type D personality is the existentialist one.

It is important to know that no personality test is accurate for everyone, but this test has been researched extensively to ensure it is valid and reliable, using a variety of statistical methods.   This test is also specifically designed to help you find the right career for your type as well as your individual interests and strengths.  Finally there is also MBTI assessment developed by Isabel Myers and Katharine Briggs..

Personality Types

Dedicate your Time to Practice Personal Skills with these activities

Take time to pray…
it helps to bring God near and washes the dust of earth from your eyes.

Take time for friends…
they are the source of happiness.

Take time for work…
it is the price of success.

Take time to think…
it is the source of power.

Take time to read…
it is the foundation of knowledge and skills.

Take time to laugh and sing …
it is the singing that helps with life’s loads.

Take time to love…
it is the one sacrament of life.

Take time to dream…
it hitches the soul to the stars.

Take time to play…
it is the secret of youth.

Most Desired Qualities to live as a true human being

1Persons to be Most Respected in life & beyondMother & Father
2Very Very Auspicious Day to start somethingToday
3The most precious Gift  for someoneForgiveness
4The noblest qualityHumility
5Never desired qualityHatred
6Basic Necessity in a personConfidence
7Most Dreaded DiseaseGreedy
8Very Easy thing to do but should be avoidedFind Fault
9The Lowest of one’s  own standardEnvy
10Should Never Believe inRumours
11The most Dangerous Act, i.e.Needless Talking
12Should never be done in life timeDeceitful
13Should always be extendedHelp
14Should be avoided  everLaziness
15The first stepping stone to growthHard Work
16Something which should never be missedOpportunity
17Should never be separated fromFriendship
18Should never be forgotten in lifeGratitude

Every human being wants Happiness, Success and Peaceful Life.

Approximately 50%  of your happiness, that is your “happiness set-point,” is determined by personality traits. Balance 50% of your happiness prevails outside your control.

It means 50 percent of your happiness is totally within your control: relationships, health, career, etc.  Therefore, you can  still do things to make yourself  remain happier in life.

Like this:

1. Make good friends.

2.  Express thankfulness.

3. Actively pursue your goals.

4. Do what you excel at as often as you can.

5. Give and Take.

6. Don’t single-mindedly chase “stuff.”

7. Live the life you want to live.

Conclusion :

The four main aspects of personal development are PEMS (Physical, Emotional, Mental, Spiritual) :

Physical       :  Physical development is a vital part of growing up as children learn to master control of their body. The mind and the body work together, so we’ve got to give some attention to both, mind and body.

Emotional    :  It is the ability to form secured relationships.  Emotional development is regulating and expressing emotions of human being. It involves the way one feels about themselves, others and about the world. Recent research shows that there is a direct connection between healthy social – emotional development and academic success.

  • Showing affection for others.
  • Expressing awareness of their own feelings and those of others.
  • Displaying self-control and management of emotions.
  • Paying attention to and being observant of others.
  • Forming healthy friendships and relationships.
  • Expressing feelings through words.

Mental          :  Mental development includes such abilities as attending, perceiving, observing, remembering, imagining, thinking, solving problems and growth of intelligence as well as of language. These abilities change, grow and mature with age and decline in old age.

Good mental health allows children to think clearly, develop socially and learn new skills. Additionally, good friends and encouraging words from adults are all important for helping children develop self confidence, high self-esteem, and a healthy emotional outlook on life.

Spiritual       :   Spiritual development  is to believe in something beyond the material universe and to develop an awareness of realities beyond the confines of time and space. … Spiritual development is increasingly aligning God’s purposes for the world with our story.

How can you Improve Your Spiritual Health?

  • Explore your spiritual core. By doing this, you are simply asking yourself questions about the person you are and your meaning about yourself
  • Look for deeper meanings. …
  • Try yoga & Travel. …
  • Think positively. …
  • Take time to reflect and meditate.
  • At the end you may even keep Praising and Thanking God your Creator for whatever he has done for you.

Personal spirituality is really about the way in which you relate to your moment-to-moment experience. It grows from the quality of attention you give to everything that life presents you with. …

You can follow any of the steps mentioned, that is the characteristics, principles and qualities of Great Personalities, your Role Models, undergo related courses and training, carry out any of the tests and follow strictly on the steps of developing and improving the required skills with attitudinal changes, if required so as to achieve success and satisfaction in your life.